Over the last two months we have lived a very chaotic life. To call it a whirlwind would be an understatement, it’s more of a monsoon. An ongoing, at times stress filled, other times fun and exciting and completely exhausting two months. Moving sucks, especially when you add school to the equation (one in a new school and starting our youngest in preschool) but in the end it will be soooooo worth the headache.
Obviously we haven’t written much over these months. We just haven’t had the time. But today is our anniversary – 16 years to be exact, and we wanted to share a quick word for other couples who may be going through an all consuming season of life. Moving is one, but there are many things that can drain almost all of our time and energy. Death or illness of a loved one, a new job or different shift at work, major projects around the house (yeah we’re doing two of them as well) can be a major strain on a couple.
We’ve written before about how when we get stressed out, sometimes sex is the answer. But during long and drawn out life changes like we are going through right now, it’s more about the little things. Taking the night off on a big project, or even a few hours to sit around a fire outside or drink coffee and talk about something entirely different are crucial if you want to keep stress from taking a toll on your marriage. It can be hard to break away, especially when you’re under time constraints (yep, we’re on the clock too) but keeping sight of the fact that your marriage will go through many of these types of seasons helps to keep your perspective in the right place. Gods design for marriage is to have a couple grow stronger together through trials, not grow apart.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NIV
As for us, we can’t wait to get back to normal (and that should be very soon) so we can get back to writing our blog. We have so many great topics we want to address as soon as we have a place to sit that isn’t a box or a 2×4. And even though for this years anniversary we might find ourselves covered in very unsexy paint and drywall dust we couldn’t be happier. By taking a few moments to remind ourselves how important we are to each other we are continuing to build on our strong foundation.
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